Today’s post is inspired by Sidey’s weekend theme, which this week is “things aren’t always what they seem to be.” After Sidey posted her own fascinating entry I wondered what I would post. At first I thought I’d go the creative writing route, but suddenly I realized that I have some real stories to share, that all relate to the hidden truths inside rather than the way things seem.
The Truth Inside the Silence
The first story that popped into mind is not my story to share. It is the story of Christine Grote’s sister Annie, who she writes about so beautifully in the book Dancing in Heaven. I wrote a review of this book on my Hub yesterday. I think I’ve decided to pretty much only use my Hub to help fellow author’s achieve their goals, and this was one book I wanted to share. But this is not about the review, rather its about the secret hidden inside Annie. Annie may not have been able to talk or function on her own, but through the reading of Christine’s amazing story, I began to see that she had an inner life full of richness and joy, that her family instinctively understood. For an example of what I mean, read this excerpt from Dancing in Heaven on Christine’s blog or better yet, get the book and read the whole story.
Creative Truth Inside Everyone
I spent a little time this week writing a guest post (soon to appear) for Stuart Nager’s Creativity Series over at bornstoryteller, where he asks the question “Why Creativity?” and has reached out to people for the answers. I’m not going to share my response to the series here, but writing it made me think of all the people who I’ve had to push a little harder to make them open to imagination.
So often we put ourselves in a box saying, “I’m not creative,” or “I can’t do that.” Even worse is when society limits people by not being open to the idea that there is more to a person than first assumptions. After all, today’s lesson is “Things aren’t always what they seem to be.”
Because of my bizarre career path in life, I often get to see incredible transformations as I help people dig a little deeper to discover what’s inside. Here a few examples:
- There are a few girls in my Saturday acting classes (my only steady job at the moment) who seem reluctant to participate. They like the games, but won’t put much energy into them. They don’t want to let go and let their imaginations take them on a journey. That all changed, to some extent, last week with a surprise student in my class aka my brother, Steve. I don’t know if it was the fact that an adult male was willing to be goofy, thus making them more comfortable, or perhaps I was more on my game because I myself had an audience (Steve’s never seen me teach before). Suddenly all of the girls participated, and the one I am having the most trouble with left with a smile on her face. We’ll see how things go today, but I got a glimpse inside last week, and that makes me feel great. “Things aren’t always what they seem to be.”
- Perhaps my favorite example of this came from my experience, early last summer, working with adults with developmental disorders. I’ve written about it in more detail here (one of my favorite posts ever) but one student in particular lives with me in my heart. Jason, when I first met him, would not look me in the eye. He would not raise his head. His “Hello” was barely a whisper, more like a puff of breath reluctantly escaping his lips. By the last presentation, he was volunteering to say lines, and creating art with joyous abandon. My partner in that class started working with them again this week. That is, perhaps, my biggest regret in leaving Kansas, because I won’t be able to continue to help uncover the incredible person inside Jason’s shy demeanor.
So what have we learned today, kind readers? I’ll say it one more time, just to make it stick:
”Things aren’t always what they seem to be.”
Sometimes they are better than you think.





Nov 12, 2011 @ 08:59:37
Good post with a great picture to emphasize your message. You have had an interesting set of experiences.
Thanks again for the review, Lisa, and for the link in this post.
Nov 12, 2011 @ 09:02:24
My pleasure Christine. And thank you.
Nov 12, 2011 @ 09:06:33
Thanks for the Shout Out. Your guest blog will be on bornstoryteller.wordpress.com on 11/28, a Monday.
The biggest problem I see, and I wrote about this as well: the way we teach the kids to judge themselves and then they back off. Comparing to what is considered good instead of rejoicing they are doing SOMETHING.
Had some teachers respond on LinkedIn…and their answers were saddening. Only rewarded the”gifted”. they suck, imho
Nov 12, 2011 @ 09:11:01
I don’t completely blame teacher’s. In a system that has a limited definition of what it means to be gifted, and doesn’t allow for the time it takes to sometimes uncover the hidden gifts, it is the fallback position to reward those whose gifts blaze out for all to see. It is a definite flaw in the system, but unless the system changes all we can do is small steps.
Nov 12, 2011 @ 09:15:30
Lisa…i am talking about the two who answered, and their argumentative attitudes, not teachers as a whole. One even stated he was arguing on purpose. Moron, he was. They were against a quote I used from Picasso,, without even knowing the quote.
Every child is an artist. The problem is how to remain an artist once he grows up.
Pablo Picasso
Once I pointed that out, they both blew away.
Nov 12, 2011 @ 09:18:19
I don’t get why any teachers would take that argumentative stance, unless they had become jaded as teachers. I certainly wouldn’t want my daughter in their classrooms. But, I’m sure there are plenty of teachers out there who only want to teach the gifted (I’m guilty of that myself occasionally, when the digging just becomes too hard) but I’m sure that, if given the chance, there are more teacher’s who would love to help us “remain artists” forever.
Nov 12, 2011 @ 09:20:07
I would hope so too. They were jerks…but, I have run into too many like them over the years. it is sad, and yes…i would not want my children near them.
Nov 12, 2011 @ 09:49:36
I really like your closing point: “Sometimes they are better than you think.” I have found that to be the truth many times. Maybe it is easier to look at things skeptically but the proverbial rose-colored glasses aren’t a bad way to keep open to the good things that are hidden beneath the surface. Nice post.
Nov 12, 2011 @ 09:57:42
I too often look at the world, especially at myself, with the dark glasses of negativity. I’m much better at seeing the hidden greatness of other people and other things. I’m working on changing that. Thanks for reading.
Nov 12, 2011 @ 10:59:43
If any of your readers have not looked at the post you did about drama workshops with developmentally disabled adults, then they should sneak a peak this weekend. I still believe that may be the best post you have ever written and one that WordPress editors should Freshly Press!
Hugs, my friend,
Kathy
Nov 12, 2011 @ 16:01:36
I know it is your favorite Kathy. I give up up on Freshly Pressed!
Lisa
Nov 12, 2011 @ 11:30:39
this is lovely, thank you so much
Nov 12, 2011 @ 16:01:10
Thanks for the inspiration.
Nov 13, 2011 @ 13:40:27
how wonderful to be able to help people open up and express themselves
Nov 13, 2011 @ 15:53:46
I try my best.
Nov 12, 2011 @ 18:50:18
Good take on the weekend theme, Lisa. And loved your Hub review of Dancing in Heaven.
Nov 12, 2011 @ 20:42:22
Thanks nancy.
Nov 12, 2011 @ 22:54:54
Your post reminded me of something important. What I feel like I’m most missing from childhood are the obvious and easily-offered opportunities to let go, be silly, try things in a different way, or learn about a new or hidden talent. Thank you for sharing your breadth of experience. It’s so heartening to know there are people like you doing work like yours.
Nov 13, 2011 @ 09:31:02
Thank you for your kind words.
Nov 13, 2011 @ 10:08:26
As a teacher, I can see where children’s talents/gifts are suppressed. I used to have a long list of choices students could make just to do a book report–whether it was a poster, drawing, sculpture, collage, etc. Not everyone fits into a box. Great post, Lisa. thanks for bringing out their creativity..
Nov 13, 2011 @ 11:07:08
One of the biggest problems today is trying to make a “one size fits all” education work, when in reality nobody learns or creates the same. Great teachers like you recognize that and encourage learning and achievement using the abilities innate to the child. Bravo for that.
Nov 13, 2011 @ 15:09:25
So often we put ourselves in a box saying, “I’m not creative,” or “I can’t do that.”
You are spot on there!! Sometimes we look at others, compare ourselves and then feel insignificant.
Nov 13, 2011 @ 15:53:35
Funny, but today I’m feeling kind of like “I can’t do it.”
Nov 13, 2011 @ 18:01:22
It’s great when we have days like this!
Nov 13, 2011 @ 18:45:06
OK I finally got off my arse and made the pics and videos from my visit into a little movie. The movie itself may not be something special, but the content sure is. I will post a link to it as soon as I fully get it all together. Just wanted to give everyone a heads up that they may get to see you in action a little
Nov 13, 2011 @ 20:03:17
Looking forward to it I think.
Nov 13, 2011 @ 20:42:15
Just posted. I think you will enjoy it
http://taochild.wordpress.com/2011/11/13/magicians-in-training/
Nov 14, 2011 @ 07:27:26
Thanks for doing that. It’s really cool and interesting to look at through someone else’s eyes.
Nov 14, 2011 @ 01:14:06
Did he make that geode in the last picture? It’s gorgeous!
Nov 14, 2011 @ 07:30:07
No, I found that on line. If you click on the picture it links you to the source, an art show (I think) in Austin, TX.
Nov 14, 2011 @ 06:18:43
I hope they are better than we think
Nov 14, 2011 @ 07:28:07
Ditto.
Nov 14, 2011 @ 20:06:50
You left a note at my blog that I don’t understand. A subscribe needed ton improve my readership? Wattsa