Today I Dislike Words

Yes. Me. The person who manages to post despite having no regular access to internet (STILL). The person who sometimes posts multiple times in one day. The person who loves language and plays with prose whenever she can.

I HATE words.

Not all words, just certain ones that torture me by their existence, by their meaning, or by their elusiveness. I dislike words that seem determined to defy expectations and deny me their use.

What kinds of words do I mean? Here is a sampling of the words I currently despise:

I dislike all words that describe people’s abilities on a resume, because I do not know how to use them properly. Am I a manager? Am I a teacher? What makes me an excellent communicator or a creative thinker? How to I explain the multiple roles I have played in my life, and the skills that each of those roles require? How do I keep it all down to one or two pages, showing the qualities that make me a viable candidate for projects of all kinds.

I no longer understand the meaning of those words.

I want to change the meaning of words. I refuse to discuss progress any more, but rather talk in terms of movement. I am moving, in many directions, to get to the next step in my journey, not to achieve a specific goal. Success and failure cannot define me, as they are relative to the eyes of the beholder. But what words can I use to replace them?

Today I feel defeated by the limitations of language. Do you ever feel that way? Do you ever wish words meant something different? 

Perhaps today I need to express myself in something other than words, to help me move from this:

to this:

Perhaps it’s not the words that are the problem, but my inner critics  (this link is to a Hub Post about them) who seem to be screaming loudly in my brain at the moment.


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30 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. bekaboo
    Sep 19, 2011 @ 10:37:13

    That scream says it all! ;p Resume words make me crazy too-having to write them down, having to consider them at all. I love the idea of movement, though! Put that on your next resume and just keep moving in the meantime.

    Reply

    • Lisa (Woman Wielding Words)
      Sep 19, 2011 @ 10:39:35

      It’s nice to know that I am not alone in my dislike and inability to use those kinds of words. ;)

      Reply

  2. Kathryn McCullough
    Sep 19, 2011 @ 10:58:25

    Lisa, this post is brilliant! It should be Freshly Pressed–for sure! How do we get those WP editors over here to read it?

    I don’t know about hating those exact words, but I know how desperately I hate words sometimes–many times–like today! You have described the experience perfectly. Isn’t it ironic that your writing about hating words would use words so amazingly well?

    By the way, I would LOVE to do a table for you and/or a dresser for Sarah’s new room, if I were closer. Your work there is inspiring, my friend!

    Kathy

    Reply

    • Lisa (Woman Wielding Words)
      Sep 19, 2011 @ 11:04:01

      Thanks Kathy. I have so given up on ever getting Freshly Pressed.

      I’ve posted more pictures of Sarah’s room on Facebook, if you feel like checking them out.
      <3 Lisa

      Reply

  3. The City Slacker
    Sep 19, 2011 @ 11:24:02

    A word that I hate, in particular when my managers uses it, is discussion because it’s always him talking and me nodding!

    Reply

  4. TheIdiotSpeaketh
    Sep 19, 2011 @ 11:33:34

    The word I really hate today is RIBBERSNUCKER. (A person who snucks ribbers..) I really hate that word…. Seriously, stop listening to your inner critic! Critics are always wrong! You should know that! :)

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  5. Tori Nelson
    Sep 19, 2011 @ 12:22:18

    If all of the above-mentioned words just stood for something wonderful like “cake” or “full fat extra carbs pass the butter diet” I’d be all on board with some successfull, goal-making progress with my skills.

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    • Lisa (Woman Wielding Words)
      Sep 20, 2011 @ 16:29:04

      We can change the meanings of all words to incorporate those truly important elements of life. Today I will have achieved my goal (translate fed my stomach) successfully (by eating apple pie).

      Reply

  6. brinkofbedlam
    Sep 19, 2011 @ 12:43:43

    I particularly dislike the word ‘career!’ I prefer to think of it in terms of ‘careering around in all sorts of directions at once’ instead of in work terms. Says a lot about me really

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    • Lisa (Woman Wielding Words)
      Sep 20, 2011 @ 16:27:28

      I like this and will incorporate it into my vocabulary as I continue careering around in multiple directions. Thanks. ;)

      Reply

  7. Mark Petruska
    Sep 19, 2011 @ 12:45:15

    Oddly, the word I hate today is SNUBBERRICKER (a person who ricks snubbers). Strange that Idiot and I were almost on the same exact page.

    Reply

  8. Julia Skinner
    Sep 19, 2011 @ 12:47:22

    I’ve had days like that when the world just is not speaking my language! Hugs!

    Reply

  9. nrhatch
    Sep 19, 2011 @ 13:52:07

    Be creative. Restructure your resume to play up your experience in each of the areas you enjoy.

    Example:

    Publication Credits
    Writing Experience
    Presentations
    Performances
    Continuing Education
    Field Experience
    Etc.

    Next to each ~ enough info to prompt YOU to talk about it at the interivews.

    Examples for Continuing Education and Field Experience:

    Fundraising ~ Community Foundation’s Fundraising Forum (2009); Writing a Compelling Grant (2005); Promotional Materials Coordinator, MS Walks (2005); Effective Fundraising (2001); Recruiter/Fundraiser, Bowl-A-Thon for Kristina Mauz (1996); Membership Drives, Winston-Salem Chamber of Commerce (1989-1991)

    Event Planning ~ PBC Halloween Parties (2009); AmeriCorps Special Events & Graduation Ceremonies (2001-2008); Class of 1980 Reunion Committee, William & Mary (2005); Site Tours & Luncheons, Salisbury Zoo & Ward Museum (2002); Raised Bed Gardens, HealthSouth (2002); MS Awareness Day, HealthSouth (2002); “No Barriers” Conference, HealthSouth (2001); Western Regional Coordinator, NC Law Day, Moot Court Competition (1989–1990)

    Mentoring ~ National Mentoring Board, America Learns (2008–present); Program Director/Coordinator, ShoreCorps/PALS (2001-2008); Field Supervisor, Social Work Department, Salisbury University (2003–2004); Side-By-Side CIT Volunteers (1997-1999); Career Connections Externship Program, William & Mary (1997)

    Life Balance ~ Keeping Life Balance (2003); The Dream Diamond (2002); Time Management (2002); Stress Management (2002)

    Community Building ~ Planning Ahead: Building our Ranks through Diversity (2005); Community Building (2002); Diversity Training and Awareness (2002); Disability Awareness (2001); Managing Conflict (2001); Volunteer Management (2001); Group Dynamics (2001)

    Human Relations ~ Preventing Sexual Harassment (2005); Dealing with Difficult People (2003); Personality Preferences: Understanding Yourself and Others (2002); Volunteer Management (2001); Managing Conflict (2001); Group Dynamics (2001)

    Communication Skills ~ Effective Communication (2003); Assertiveness Training (2003); Community Building (2002); Diversity Training and Awareness (2002); Volunteer Management(2001); Managing Conflict (2001)

    Domestic Violence ~ Crisis Intervention Counselor Training (1997); Criminal Justice StudiesCamden County College (1997); Coordinated Community Response to Domestic Violence (1997)

    Good luck!

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    • Lisa (Woman Wielding Words)
      Sep 20, 2011 @ 16:26:18

      Thanks Nancy. I’m trying to do this, but it is really difficult. I will meet and defeat this challenge however, I’m sure.

      Reply

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  11. An Embarrassment of Freedom
    Sep 19, 2011 @ 15:12:37

    I don’t like those words either as I find them seem so uptight and limiting.However i would just take a couple of deep breaths and start using them as genuinely and as dep felt as possible,,,it’s how the game is played.

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  12. An Embarrassment of Freedom
    Sep 19, 2011 @ 15:13:37

    Make that …as deep…..(lousy with words!)

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  13. thehonestone
    Sep 19, 2011 @ 18:07:05

    Good Post, words cannot describe how good it is ha ha ha. Critics should never be taken note of though (especially the ones of inner persuasion).
    Sometimes words do fail to describe what is really going on so i am with you on this one.

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  14. AlvinkY
    Sep 19, 2011 @ 20:44:32

    This post in serendipitously poignant to my university experience thus far.

    Reply

  15. thepetalpusher
    Sep 20, 2011 @ 06:22:24

    Those words make me feel uncomfortable–not sure why. Perhaps it’s because they seem to be all-or-nothing words. Big hug to you, Lisa. I do see the end of the rainbow for you. (smile) ps I have given up on the FP thing too!

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    • Lisa (Woman Wielding Words)
      Sep 20, 2011 @ 16:24:31

      So many of your fabulous photos deserve to be FP’d but the process is truly a mystery. Maybe we need words in the middle.

      Reply

  16. kelworthfiles
    Sep 20, 2011 @ 16:20:18

    Yeah, I think I know how you feel, but it’s all very context-dependent. Right now, I’m pretty fond of ‘Success’, ‘goal’, and ‘progress’, even if they’re not exactly easy to get to. ‘Failure’ is not so much a favorite at the moment, if ever.

    One example that I always hated was the song “I don’t believe in if anymore”, where the word ‘if’ is blamed for wars and regrets. Personally, I can look around and see lots of great things that we couldn’t have built if it weren’t for if and ‘what if’ – science fiction and fantasy, logic and computers, and so on.

    Thanks for sharing, though, and I hope you find a way to your rainbow.

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    • Lisa (Woman Wielding Words)
      Sep 20, 2011 @ 16:23:38

      You are so right, it all depends on the context. I think my problem with the word success is the multiple definitions of it. My definition of success seems to be very different from the worlds.

      Reply

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