Night Marchers in the Bathroom Help Me Discover Another Fabulous Friend

When New Friends Meet

“Oh my God, Lisa! You have to get in here!”

The cry came from the bathroom of my apartment in Hawaii. It was a strange cry coming from a relatively new friend, also named Lisa, who was taking a shower at my place when a day of getting to know each other better became one long string of adventures.

The next thing I know, she bursts out of the bathroom wrapped in a towel, gorgeous red hair streaming water. “I’m serious Lisa, you’ve got to hear this.”

I hesitantly follow her back into the bathroom where the shower is still running.  “What is it?’ I ask. Everything seemed the same as when I had taken my shower just a short time earlier.

“Shh! Listen, can you hear that drumming?” I listened carefully, and suddenly tuned in on what sounded like distant rhythmic drumming. It wasn’t water in the pipes. It wasn’t a drummer practicing a set. It was the very distant drums of ritual.

“What is that?” I asked.

“It’s the Night Marchers.”

“The what?”

“The Night Marchers. And I think we are lucky that we were taking showers, because it probably saved our lives.”


A true friendship formed as she explained the legend; a friendship that started when Nathan introduced me to one of his best high school friends and has lasted through the years as she became a truly fabulous woman, mother, and citizen of this earth.


This story reveals how my fascination with the supernatural opened the door to another amazing person in my life who I wish to celebrate.

The Legend of the Night Marchers

The Night Marchers are

ghostly apparitions of a band of beings who move with purpose to the beat of primitive pounding drums. Some say they are armed spirit warriors en route to or from battle, toting archaic weaponry and clothed in decorated helmets and cloaks. Other accounts tell of high-ranking alii (ruler) spirits being guided to places of high importance or to welcome new warriors to join in battle. (

In Hawaiian legend, to look upon the Night Marchers and meet them in the eye means death, as the Marchers take them with you on their lonely march. However, you can save yourself from this fate by averting your eyes and crouching down. Or, according to Lisa on that particular day, “they won’t take you if you are naked.”

Good thing, isn’t it, since they seemed to be moving through my shower?

Lasting Friendship Formed

I’m not 100% sure of this, but I think our meeting with the Night Marcher’s came on, perhaps, the second day of our friendship. Nathan and Lisa had been best friends in high school. When she came back to the island for a visit after Nathan and I started dating, he introduced us, and within minutes it was like we had known each other forever.   Nathan was not with us on the day of the Night Marchers, I believe we had decided we just needed to get to know each other better and have a girls’ day. It became one of those days where you plan on doing one thing, and then you add on another, and another, until all of a sudden you’ve had a complete day full of adventures. I don’t remember all the details of that day (although I do recall a cop trying to pull us over for an out-of-date sticker or something, and Lisa managing to talk us out of it because her dad was a policeman and the cop recognized her–I was impressed).

I don’t know if the spooky beginnings cemented our relationship or what, but I have been honored to know Lisa these many years, and to count her among my closest (although long-distant) friends. Lisa is one of those amazing women that fights for what she believes in, and especially for justice, equality, and the rights of children. She used to work for Teach for America, then went on to pursue journalism, where she eloquently wrote about education. She then moved onto working for the public education system. Throughout it all, she has provided a passionate pursuit for change and the importance of an educational system that truly succeeds. She hasn’t always had it easy, as she became the victim of politics (as often happens to good people). But, despite the struggles, she always keeps a positive attitude and a caring heart. When I last spent time with her (she’s the one who took me for my first pedicure) she was trying to alleviate tensions between an offended rabbi and some people who unintentionally insulted him through naiveté. (I’m not sure the end result, I’ll have to find out).

Her husband, Matt, is also an incredible person, advocating for and supporting first-generation college students to help them succeed. Together they represent a truly caring, intelligent couple that wants nothing more than to live a life full of love, and share that love with others.

Lisa and Matt

Lisa and I are more than just friends. In many ways we are sisters, and I am so lucky for that. I was there when her now husband Matt proposed to her. While I wasn’t there when she gave birth to her first child a few months before I gave birth to mine, those two girls have since met and immediately became fast friends. In many ways, I think the spirit world has intervened to make souls come together who were destined to meet.

Instant friends, sisters at heart.

It just goes to show you that eerie things might happen, but perhaps messages from beyond are messages intended to help, not to harm. I’m sure Lisa and I would have been friends anyway, but it didn’t hurt to get a little nudge from the Night Marchers. (By the way, I only heard them one more time in that bathroom, and I listened for them all the time).

25 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. An Embarrassment of Freedom
    Oct 17, 2011 @ 08:53:47

    Interesting night with the marchers! Strange and wonderful things do happen.


  2. LittleMissVix
    Oct 17, 2011 @ 09:15:33

    Great story! I love the idea of souls destined to meet and even time and distance can’t shake the connection when you see each other again. Cute!


  3. Kathryn McCullough
    Oct 17, 2011 @ 09:31:05

    This is a great post, Lisa! I can’t agree with you more that somehow some souls are destined to meet. And I’m so glad we were able to have that happen for us–and Sara and Nathan, of course. I really want to meet Lisa, now that I read this. How great it would have been had Nathan gotten the job in Lexington. Hugs to you, my friend!


    • Lisa (Woman Wielding Words)
      Oct 17, 2011 @ 09:35:16

      Well, you and Lisa do live in the same city, so perhaps you are destined to meet at some point. Stranger things have happened. 😉


  4. Sandi Ormsby
    Oct 17, 2011 @ 10:16:12

    I’ve never heard of the Night Marchers. Interesting. Our bathroom just has the “drips.”


  5. Lisa (Woman Wielding Words)
    Oct 17, 2011 @ 10:21:23

    Dripping is the extent of excitement in our current bathroom as well. I loved that Hawaii apartment. It will remain one of my favorite places I’ve ever lived.

    Hawaii has so many legends and spooky things. Supposedly, there was a ghost dog that haunted the corner down the street from that particular apartment, although I never saw it. Woooo! Spooky.


  6. Barbarann Ayars
    Oct 17, 2011 @ 12:44:02

    This reminds me of a very small number of people I know i have met somewhere in the ether before. Not like, “Have we met before?” Much more than that, a strong and strangely comfortable knowing, an immediate recognition of some soul connection we can’t recall. An amazing sense of each other, mutual and satisfying, as if across some great distance and deep divide, we find each other again, before moving off in another direction in a different life.


    • Lisa (Woman Wielding Words)
      Oct 17, 2011 @ 13:13:30

      I’ve felt that kind of connection with several people throughout my lifetime. It lends credence to the possibility of reincarnation, and souls coming back again and again.


  7. Rose
    Oct 17, 2011 @ 13:05:04

    What a way to learn about the Night Marchers – fascinating!


    • Lisa (Woman Wielding Words)
      Oct 17, 2011 @ 13:14:17

      It was pretty cool, and of course led me to reading about all the fascinating hauntings and legends in Hawaii when I had free time.


  8. thepetalpusher
    Oct 17, 2011 @ 17:53:44

    It’s fascinating to learn the circumstances with which people are drawn together to become friends. What an interesting story. Having lived in Hawaii–I never knew about the Night Marchers! Thanks!


    • Lisa (Woman Wielding Words)
      Oct 17, 2011 @ 17:58:14

      How long did you live there? They supposedly march on specific routes on the island. I lived in kind of near Punchbowl Cemetary which is one of their marching points on Oahu.


  9. Julia T
    Oct 17, 2011 @ 20:29:33

    Wow. I got shivers reading that!


  10. Trackback: Leaping into Possibility « Woman Wielding Words
  11. Trackback: Life is About Learning: Celebrating Fabulous Friends III « Woman Wielding Words
  12. tricia driscoll
    Oct 26, 2011 @ 09:53:14

    What a wonderful tribute to your friend!!!! And, if spirits ever did knock on my door, I hope they are the kind that don’t want me naked, too. 🙂 Thanks for linking up!


    • Lisa Wields Words
      Oct 26, 2011 @ 09:55:31

      Hehehe. If I actually had to strip down, I’d be doomed, but they came through where nudity was expected . . . the shower.


  13. Trackback: Tilting at Windmills or The Search for True Heroes « Woman Wielding Words
  14. Trackback: My Spooky Fascination « Woman Wielding Words
  15. Trackback: Celebrating Friendship | Woman Wielding Words
  16. Trackback: Things that Go Bump in Your Mind | Lisa A. Kramer: Woman Wielding Words

Share your thoughts with Lisa

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Google photo

You are commenting using your Google account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s

%d bloggers like this: