Walking, Writing, and Working the Weight Away

Some of you may remember that many moons ago I declared I was going to “Write Myself Right” meaning that I would use my writing as a tool to help me achieve my personal health and weight-loss goals. As often happens, my good intentions lasted only a short time as I found myself trapped into the vicious cycle which goes something like:

self-doubt–>boredom–>depression–>eating out of boredom,depression and self-doubt–>feeling fat and ugly–>self-doubt–>

It’s really an ugly cycle that just got uglier as my job search lead to dead-ends, my writing felt like it was empty, and my confusions about what I want to do with my life grew. Somehow writing myself right became too hard, and I simply tried to write my way out of the slump I was in, without worrying about what my body did.

Over the past month, however, I faced some brutal realities, and shifted my attitude. It was not an easy month, as I took on the role of single mom, while Nathan went ahead to his other home, a place where I have yet to find my place. The month apart was emotional for many reasons, but I began to realize that I am the only one who can change my destiny, and that I was tired of succumbing to the depression. I took strides to give myself a break. I blogged less, but wrote more. I took myself for walks. I cleaned and reorganized the house. I signed up for webinars to help me clarify my personal career goals. I worked on establishing better boundaries and understanding between myself and my daughter, so that she could see me as an individual as well as her mother—in other words, as a person who is not simply the protective extension of her existence.

It was a month of learning, growing, and crying.

Now we are here in Iowa, at our “summer home” where I am always torn about being here. In some ways I love it, but in others I become frustrated as I have yet to find my place here and end up feeling frustrated and guilty half the time.

In my new favorite movie, Brave, Princess Merida asks the question “If you had a chance to change your fate, would you?” I answered the question for myself this week by taking a few simple steps.


Sarah had swim lessons every morning this week. I took the time during her 45 minute lesson to walk on the track, adding some oomph to my workout with the help of wrist weights. On Thursday morning, before her class, I took my first ever Pilades class (and I still feel it in my stomach) so I swam a little and soaked instead of walking. I also walked around the theatre lot all week in search of props and helping out here and there. I tried my best (in a place where eating healthy is sometimes challenging as the food is plentiful and decadent) to eat lightly and right. I also gave myself a break from the emotions, but sleeping, writing, and basically trying to just be in the moment.

This morning I put on some short pants that I bought last week to bring with me to Boji. Pants that I wore last weekend. Pants that were a little snug when I bought them.

Today I feel like I  need a belt.

I don’t know what the scale will say. I don’t know if the weight is just water weight. I don’t know if this is a permanent change or what.

But it really doesn’t matter. I feel like something has shifted inside myself, and something good is about to happen. I still don’t know what it is, but I am excited to face it.

One step at a time.

12 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. jesterqueen (@jesterqueen)
    Jun 30, 2012 @ 23:53:48

    Don’t let the scale tell you anything. I find that I sometimes loose the inches before the weight. (Why? Who freaking knows.) I LOVE pilates, but oh GOD THEY HURT. I never have liked a class that hurt before.


  2. critters and crayons (@critterscrayons)
    Jul 01, 2012 @ 09:23:51

    It’s uplifting that you are finding your way after the hardships….what a boost it must have been to find the pants so loose! 🙂 Good luck, Lisa…..


  3. Julie Frayn
    Jul 01, 2012 @ 11:25:58

    Small shifts can make huge differences. The initial shift is the hard part – so good for you to make that happen.


  4. Christine Grote
    Jul 01, 2012 @ 12:44:16

    I’m happy to hear about this shift. I know you’ve been struggling for quite a while. I feel a change coming for you. Be kind to yourself.


  5. SzaboInSlowMo
    Jul 01, 2012 @ 20:56:12

    I’m in the same place you are, yet I have no results to note so far. So I’ll just live through your writing, haha. Maybe I’ll get a little more motivated.


  6. thepetalpusher
    Jul 03, 2012 @ 20:01:46

    I never step on the scale. I just gauge how things fit 🙂 Keep up the good work!


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