The So-Called “Real World”

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What is the “real world” of which people speak?

When you graduate from high school, people say now it is time to move into the real world. But then you go to college, and that is definitely not real.

When you graduate college, people say “welcome to the real world.” But then, if you are like me, you search for the job, the life, the home, the career that makes you feel real. My search continues to this day, and I’ve been out of college for a long time.

Does the world become real when you get married? Or have children? Sometimes I feel that those facts are the most surreal of the real. For me, while family is comfort, it is also this bizarre commitment to be with people even when sometimes that may not feel right. Watching my daughter grow sometimes feels like watching a stranger infused with growing and learning magic. Some days seem real, but others seem like I’m walking in a story of somebody else’s making. This does not mean that I don’t love my family, I do, but if this defines reality than I don’t know what is real.

Is going to work part of the real world? There are days when it feels like all we do is eat, sleep, poop, and work. The work never ends. Even for someone like me, who often has multiple short-term projects going on, it sometimes feels like an endless cycle. Is this what reality is all about?

I don’t believe in the real world, anymore. I think it is a term created by people who want to define reality in one certain way. Just like those in our country who believe that we all have to live  speaking the same language, believing the same things, not deviating from the “norm.” I’ve never agreed with those people. I’ll never be normal. Actually, I think that here is no norm. There is no reality.

As of this moment, I am embracing my non-real world. I don’t quite know what that means, but I believe that I have to carve out a life for myself (and my family) that truly makes me happy. I cannot let “real world” things, like work, money, etc. suck all of the joy out of living. It is simply not worth it.

Referring to Referrers


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I admit it, I am addicted to looking at my blog stats. Even though I have not been writing regularly, I can’t resist checking in to see if anyone has visited my blog recently. Face it, the purpose of blogging is to put your thoughts and ideas out there and hope that somebody reads them. I know that I haven’t written anything earth-shattering, but it is nice to know that some people actually are interested in hat I have to say.

But today it got me thinking about how my blog is getting out there. I clicked on the links to the referrers (the sights that sent others to my blog). Now, sometimes I recognize them (like the link to my website–woo hoo someone is looking at that). A couple of referrers are mysterious and some are links to advertising. The mysterious ones are what disturb me. For example, today there is a link to something that ends with “death-to-America”. Scary, huh? I am the first to admit that I question some things about American society, but that is also my right as a citizen. Most of what aggravates me are the prejudices and inconsistencies that people promote as a right of freedom, and the lack of understanding that many in our country have for the troubles in the world. Our arrogance frustrates me. But that doesn’t mean I hate democracy or anything like that. So why would my blog be linked to something like that. I would hate to think that my words are being used by some kind of terrorist organization to further a sickening cause. Or maybe I represent the reasons people hate America.

I find it creepy, like big brother is watching me.

So let me put this out clearly, I am pretty much a pacifist, but I will fight for the people and things I love. I have strong opinions and I am willing to share them, but I will not be used as a tool to promote hate!  I hope people read my blog, and I hope that people will respond in comments, but I will not be used as some kind of mysterious tool to promote negativity.

I don’t know if any of this makes sense, but I figured I should write something as it is a disturbing question. I don’t think many of us are aware about the complexity that comes with life on the web. We write, we blog, we create, we vent . . . but we don’t really know where our words go. The complexity of the modern world leads to any number of questions. Please, help me anser them: Who are we touching? What is being learned and discovered? What images are being created in readers minds? How do people find blogs? What makes you read one blog versus another? Why do we write?

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